
What Does a Man Want?
THE JOURNALIST NANCY FRIDAY is best known for My Secret Garden (1973), a collection of the sexual fantasies of hundreds of women who responded to her call for confessions. Predating the more statistics-heavy Hite Report by three years, Friday’s first book was groundbreaking in its recognition of real female fantasy, freed from man-pleasing stereotypes. However, the book I’ve always found more striking was Friday’s less famous follow-up, Men in Love (1980). The subtitle, Men’s Sexual Fantasies: The Triumph of Love over Rage, illustrates the still-dominant myth that male sexuality is inherently